Why?

After all Who decides who will get love in life?

Whose life and dream we are living?

From childhood person lives up a dream of becoming something
This original dream gets modified by parental pressure, peer pressure, money, good life, compromises............

Person grows up loves somebody but doesn't decide to live forever together/marriage because in comparsion to someone else this person is not good, parents wants someone else, somebody is NRI..............


You fall in love actually want to marry but parents stand up saying what society will say?
I have given my life for you what you have done for me?
I will die if you don't marry a girl/boy of my choice?

Few will succumb few will marry thier love.

I think people who marry their love do a right thing
because
Its wrong on the part of parents to fulfill their own false dreams through their child
Marriage is not one thing to do and forget about it, its the question of a person's whole life
Its a celebration of ONE day for all other people,
If there is love in marriage, it  can become a celebration for LIFE

Few things I would like to say-
Live your life
Live your dream
Say all the good words you wanted to say to your loved ones
Don't get busy in telling your loved ones you have not done this and that, as I wanted you to do
Live and let live
So at the end of day/life you don't have any grudge/regrets of not living your dreams
Most of us will say given a second chance in life I would have done things differently
Don't wait for the second chance live your full potential  today HONESTLY

Why we do the least possible thing
Just enough for survival
enough to eat
enough to wear
enough to get a promotion
enough to make family happy
Instead we should put our maximum
to achieve to go beyond our imaginery limits
Human beings are part of divine
Explore and go beyond your LIMITATIONS
Even sky should not be your limit
Work hard, work , work .......

When you ask any body - what is your dream?
answer is invariably-
Great career success
Name
Fame
Good at work and liked by colleagues....
list goes on mostly on the professional frontier
Why?
Why we don't have goals like
I want be a great brother
I want to be a great sister
I want to be a great husband/Wife
I want to be a great father/mother
I want to be a great lover
No consideration for emotions
Why?
Why we don't have any personal goals in life
Why?
We have goals which are totally professional?
Why?

Who is flying the Kite?
The boy says- me !

The thread says- me !

The kite says- me !

The tail on the kite says - me !

The wind says - me !

Who actually is flying the kite ?

All of them together.

We are responsible together for our deeds

Together we can fly like a kite in the sky

We have to realize the strength in togetherness

Each string of rope is important to make a rope strong

Even the image on the computer screen we are seeing now is made of many pixels

So strength is in togetherness

So stay united in and with everything in life

Take pride and happiness in togtherness individuality will come on its own

Your importance is known we all can see ...

You just stay together....

I need you most when I deserve you least.

We need our family and friends the most when things are going wrong in life. 

Things may be going wrong because of me, my mistakes.....

But I need you now I can't undo what I have done but I just need you to be here beside me.

It's important to forgive and be with our loved ones instead of adhering and hiding behind the curtains of society , tradition, customs...

Only one thing should rule and stay in human life i.e LOVE. A single word but with lot of meaning and a very strong healer.

I am with you whatever happens.......

Here 's another one from the same site-

God's Loan

"I'll loan you for a little time
 a child of mine," He said,
"For you to love the while he lives,
  and mourn for when he's dead,

It may be six or seven years,
 or twenty-six or seven,
But you will, till I call him back, 
 take care of him for Me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
 and should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
 as solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,
 since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
 I'll want this child to learn.

I've looked this wide world over
 in my search for teachers true,
And from the throng that crowd life's lanes,
 I have selected you.

Now, will you give him all your love,
 nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call
 to take him back again?

I fancied that I heard you say,"
  Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
 the risk of grief we'll run.

We'll shelter him with tenderness,
 we'll love him while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
 forever grateful stay.

But should the angels call for him
 much sooner than we planned, 
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes
 and try to understand.

I saw this poem on a beautiful website for christopher a boy that died of genetic disorder.
This poem is worth thinking  about

If tomorrow starts without me,

And I'm not there to see;

If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me;

I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today,

While thinking of the many things,

we didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me,

As much as I love you.

And each time that you think of me,

I know you'll miss me too.

 

But when tomorrow starts without me,

Please try to understand,

That an angel came and called my name,

And took me by the hand.

And said my place was ready,

In heaven far above,

And that I'd have to leave behind,

All those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away,

A tear fell from my eye,

For all my life, I'd always thought,

I didn't want to die.

 

I had so much to live for,

So much left yet to do.

It seemed almost impossible,

That I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays,

The good ones and the bad,

I thought of all the love we shared,

And all the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday,

Just even for a while,

I'd say good-bye and kiss you,

And maybe see you smile.

 

But then I fully realized,

That this could never be,

For emptiness and memories,

Would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things,

I might miss come tomorrow,

I thought of you, and when I did,

My heart was filled with sorrow.

 

But when I walked through heaven's gates,

I felt so much at home.

When God looked down and smiled at me,

From His great golden throne,

He said "This is eternity,

And all I've promised you."

Today your life on earth is past,

But here life starts anew.

I promise no tomorrow,

But today will always last.

And since each day's the same way,

There's no longing for the past.

You have been so faithful,

So trusting and so true.

Though there were times you did some things, You knew you shouldn't do.

But you have been forgiven,

and now at last you're free.

So won't you come and take my hand,

and share my life with me?

 

So when tomorrow starts without me,

don't think we're far apart.

For every time you think of me,

I'm right here, in your heart.

on relationship again tempted to ask- does every new hello and good bye[wham bam...] leave you too a little scarred, a little scared , a little less? would it be the same if there was one long and deep hello followed by no goodbye?

EXPECTATIONS.....
Such a big word we have it from everybody from ourselves too!!!!

Now a days what ever we do or think, we have some expectations in return , is that the reason for all the stress and running around in life....

Get up in the morning make meals for family..in expectation some day some body else from family (brother, inlaws, spouse ...)will help or make at least one meal or at least come to kitchen just for company sake or wipe my tears because of that silly onion..Nobody comes...... pain...is it due to EXPECTATION ?

Family member thinks our new bahu has come we brought her in house for the sole purpose of taking care of the house and son what ever is she doing is her duty and she is always doing something wrong or what is not expected for her role, like wearing jeans, adding more salt, less salt not serving on time...list goes on ...pain...is it due to EXPECTATION?

Do what ever is the best in life for the kids and when they grow up they say what you have done extra in life for me ? What ever you have done was your duty even a dog takes care of their babies!!!!! They go and get busy in there own life and tension.....pain...is it due to EXPECTATION?

Kids come home from school behaves the best he can, studies does everything what ever is expected of him or what ever we know is good at the end of day he expects you to buy a gift and if you dont the old behaviour returns.....pain....is it due to EXPECTATION ?

Go to the office give your best for the whole day, whole month, whole year you dont get any promotion or increment but your colleagues gets it either at the same place or he has switched to a better company with huge income, what I got from my work...depression...pain....was it EXPECTATION ?

Boss always expects the best from you, if you perform good he will feel you are paid for it. for a single mistake on your part he will simply blast and make you feel like a dirt or the worst person on earth....AGAIN EXPECTATION ?

So many expectations everywhere from everyone from every single aspect of life....Can't we leave all this EXPECTATIONS and just live the life, just for its own beauty and enjoy whatever we have ....with out EXPECTATIONS